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Sex on the Brain Episode 17: Sex Geek Summer Camp

Episode 17: Sex Geek Summer Camp – Amory Jane goes to Sex Geek Summer Camp!¬†SGSC is a “5 day sleepaway business camp + education retreat/seminar for sex educators and sex-positive professionals.” In this live style episode, AJ interviews a group of fantastic first year campers/fellow sex pros about who they are, what they do, and their (wet and wild) adventures at #SGSC17! A must-listen for anyone interested in getting into the world of sex education/blogging/coaching or for folks who are considering attending camp next year. Also a fun listen for those just wanting to hear about what happens when a big group of sex geeks get together in the woods. ūüėȬ†

Available below or on the go with iTunes and Stitcher! 

A huge thanks to our sponsors ‚ÄďFun Factory,¬†Uberlube, and¬†She Bop!¬†

 
 
 

Things mentioned in this episode:

Sex Geek Summer Camp on Twitter

Reid Mihalko from reidaboutsex.com

Cathy Vartuli from theintimacydojo.com

Awakening Animal

Squeaky Bedsprings

Sex, Love, and All the Feels

Burlesque Stripped Down

Camp’s amazing and generous sponsors:

Credits

Host ‚Äď Amory Jane

Sound Engineering, Editing, and Theme Song¬†‚Äď Mat¬†Vuksinich

Guests ‚Äď Ria Bloom, Liz, Sammi, Alex, Colby Marie Z, and¬†Velvet O’Claire

Episode sponsors ‚Äď Uberlube, She Bop, and¬†Fun Factory

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Vulnerability Porn – from me to you!

My birthday was this week, and what I wanted for my birthday was for my sex-positive variety show + afterparty to go well.  That meant a night the audience would enjoy and remember and, for me, high enough ticket sales so I could finally fix my sex ed mobile and get back out on the road to teach sex workshops and attend conferences.

Photo by Alex Ell from Whoopee! A Sex+ Variety Show

The show was incredible (seriously, the performers were amazing) and I kicked ass at my standup comedy debut, but we fell short of our ticket sale goals. We had a Sunday night show the night after the World Naked Bike Ride, there were record high heats, and it was just Pride Weekend – not easy to compete with those things. So, while I am proud of the show and everything it brought to the community, the joy of the event unfortunately didn’t last long for me because of the impact it had on my bank account. It was a major bummer, especially since I was hoping to earn some of the $700 I need for van repairs before I can leave town.

This is going to start sounding like a sob story, if it hasn’t already, but hang with me (it gets more positive eventually).

On my actual birthday, I had one of my worst days in recent memory. It started with me being admitted to the hospital with a very painful autoimmune flare-up, and continued to get comically worse, until it ended with both of my dogs puking all over the house. When it rains it pours, and this time it poured vomit.

I was pretty ready to give up. It felt like rock bottom to me after one of the worst years of my life, in which I got divorced, sold my possessions and moved into an RV to travel the country only to have the RV break down on me, was crashed into by a hit and run driver that left me with medical bills and worsened my chronic pain condition, dealt with multiple mental health crises, and had my heart broken (again).

Pushing myself forward in a career where I was always supposed to be “on” – sexy and funny and charming and self-promoting, didn’t seem feasible any longer. I told myself that as much as I love the work I do, and as important as sex and consent education and patriarchy-smashing is to the world, it was time to either become an off the grid hermit or get a “normal person job” that paid the bills more consistently. Not making enough money each month has meant chronic stress, which certainly doesn’t help pain or mental illness or healing from grief. But when I told my best friends about my fears and plans, they all told me I was full of shit. I mean, they did it in the nicest way possible, but they still refused to believe “hermit” or a 9-5 ¬†job were my only options. They begged me to never be normal, and encouraged me to try a few more things before I gave up on my dreams. Most of them agreed I should set up a Patreon, so that’s what I did.

The life of a sex educator can be exciting and hot and rewarding and ridiculous, but it can also be challenging, exhausting, and like I’m always fighting “Imposter Syndrome.” Plus, it can be really financially unpredictable, like when colleges wait two months to send a check for a safer sex workshop, or frustrating when everyone asks for sex and relationship advice and expects it for free.

However, I love my job and am very passionate about my chosen career. I’m good at it, and people tell me frequently how much it means to them that I do this work. So, I really want to be able to keep teaching, writing, interviewing, and podcasting about sex, relationships, love, and intersectional feminism. I also want to start embracing my creativity and getting more in touch with the comedian/writer/storyteller I’ve always been. I know creating and performing, and vulnerably sharing those parts of myself, will help me heal. And I hear that’s something the world needs – more healed people to help heal others.

Whenever things get to the point where I feel hopeless and helpless, I admit, I wallow in it for a day or two (#Cancer). Then I try really hard to get out of my mopey crab shell and rise from the ashes like a glorious Phoenix of Sex Wizardy (because apparently mixing a bunch of half-assed metaphors and witchy imagery is how I get inspired). That’s what this Patreon is for me – an attempt at an self-inspiring rebirth – or at least a healing new chapter.

So, please, won’t you allow yourselves to be inspired too? Join my Patreon, get exclusive access to my intimate stories/projects/comedy/podcasts/ridiculous life + sex ed videos and advice, and feel good because you are making a huge difference in the life of an educator (who can then make a difference in the lives of others).

Thank you for helping me continue my work. <3

 

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Sex on the Brain Episode 14: Flirting

Episode 14:¬†Flirting – Sex on the Brain brings¬†back two former guests to talk about flirting and modern dating. Ev‚ÄôYan Whitney of the Sexually Liberated Woman podcast¬†and Intimacy Educator and Sex Coach Stella Harris¬†join Amory Jane in discussing different flirting styles, pick up lines and so-called ‚Äúpick up artists,‚ÄĚ and how flirting¬†has changed with online dating. They also share their experiences with dating non-monogamously, and offer plenty of flirting advice to listeners and each other.¬†

Available below or on the go with iTunes and Stitcher!

Things mentioned in this episode:

Whoopee!¬†A Sex-Positive Variety Show¬†‚Äď Get tickets here! Promo code:¬†BRAINS2

The show “First Dates

The song Treat me like Fire by Lion Babe

The show “The Pickup Artist

 

She Bop’s upcoming classes

Credits

Host ‚Äď Amory Jane

Sound Engineering, Editing, and Theme Song¬†‚Äď Mat¬†Vuksinich

A huge thanks to our Season 2 sponsors ‚ÄstShe Bop, Clone-A-Willy, and¬†Uberlube!

Adventure, Life Changes, Motorhome, moving on, Mystery Box Show, Personal Blog, Roadtrip, RV Lifestyle, Sex Ed Mobile, Sex Ed Teaching Tour, Sex Education, Sex Educator, Sex Workshops, Storytelling, Teaching Tour, Tiny House, Travel, Uncategorized

Surprise! It’s an Edna Update!

It is not yet a 100% done deal, but it is looking like I am going to be trading St. Edna the Sex Ed Mobile for a van. After getting multiple consultations, I’ve learned that a new engine for Edna would be $1200-1600, and I just don’t have that kind of money. As much as I don’t want to part with my baby RV, she’ll have a better life if she goes to a mechanic who knows how to get her running again and keep taking care of her. Besides, a van could be both my every day vehicle and a decent road trip mobile for when I go back out on tour (which I am hoping will happen in July).

I’m having lots of feelings about this, because getting Edna was a huge important chapter of my life and gave me freedom when I needed it most. Plus,¬†the night she broke down was a night that has a lot of memories attached to it and marked the beginning of another chapter for me. So, saying goodbye to Edna feels more loaded than any other auto trade or sale I’ve ever done. Maybe I’m being too sentimental, but this feels like another significant marker in a year that has been filled with heartbreak, change, and learning to let go.

The sweet/good news is that the mechanic who will likely be getting Edna saw the bumper sticker on back and asked about it. So, I told him that I drove the country with Edna to teach sex education. He¬†thought that was great, and he wants her to stay named Edna (which makes me feel a lot better about all of this, as stupid as that may sound). He also wants to leave the bumper sticker on and get a stack for his other cars, and he said it’ll help him talk to his kiddos easier about “the birds and the bees.”

BRB, crying.
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Sex on the Brain Episode 12: A Visit from the Mystery Box Show

Episode 12: A Visit from The Mystery Box Show¬†Reba Sparrow and Eric Scheur from The Mystery Box Show visit the studio and talk with Amory Jane about sex-centric storytelling. We hear how their show began and how it‚Äôs evolved, chat about vulnerability, clowns, and ‚Äúcelebrities‚ÄĚ as storytellers, and get tips on how to tell our own sex stories well.

Available below or on the go with iTunes and Stitcher!

 

Things mentioned in this episode

Sound clips from these two stories:

Masturbating Too Much?: Camille S. @ The Mystery Box Show

                                                 &

Evolution of a Threesome: Dirty Lola @ The Mystery Box Show

The Mystery Box Show’s Fifth Anniversary Show on April 8th

Kermit, Cookie Monster, and the Mystery Box

Whoopee! A Sex-Positive Variety Show¬†‚Äď Get tickets here! Promo code = SECRET

Amory Jane’s story¬†from The Mystery Box Show on 2/14/17:

 

Credits

Host ‚Äď Amory Jane

Sound Engineering, Editing, and Theme Song¬†‚Äď Mat¬†Vuksinich

As always, a huge thanks to our sponsors –¬†She Bop¬†and¬†Uberlube!

Adventure, BDSM, Culture, Dating, feminist, Feminist Porn, Femmes, Fisting, guest blog, Intern, Intern Courtney, Kink, Mental Health, Personal Blog, Podcast, Polyamory, pop culture, Porn, queer femmes, Queer Porn, Queer Sex, queer sex, real life poly, Relationships, self-discovery, self-love, Sex, Sex Education, Sex Educator, Sex on the Brain, Sex Toys, Sex-Positive Entertainment, sexuality, Spanking, Storytelling, Strap on Sex

Want more Femme Sex Party?

Community, Care, and a Femme Sex Coven

Read¬†this heartwarming, sexy, sweet little personal essay written by our very own magical intern (Intern Courtney) for Autostraddle! It’s about her experiences with our Femme Sex Coven (also featured in Episode 9 of our podcast, Sex on the Brain with Amory Jane)!

This made me cry happy tears. So much love for my intern and friend, Courtney, for my community, and for all of the witchy wonderful femmes out there! <3

 

Cougars, Culture, Dating, feminist, Intergenerational Relationships, Intersectional Polyamory, Life Changes, Podcast, Polyamory, pop culture, Porn, real life poly, Relationships, self-love, Sex, Sex Education, Sex Educator, Sex on the Brain, Sex Positive Variety Show, Sex Workshops, Sex-Positive Entertainment, sexuality, Stigma, Uncategorized, Whoopee

Sex on the Brain Episode 10: Intergenerational Relationships & Cougars

Episode 10: Intergenerational Relationships (& “Cougars”)¬†Our tenth episode is on the topic of intergenerational romantic relationships – or significant age differences between partners – and the unique considerations, benefits, and issues that tend to come up in these relationships. We‚Äôll hear from The Date Maven,¬†Suzanna Mathews, author of Revising Mrs. Robinson – a book that dives into ageism, sexism, and the “cougar taboo.‚ÄĚ We‚Äôll also hear from sex and¬†disability educator and advocate Robin Wilson-Beattie about the intersections of age, race, and disability when dating polyamorously.

Available below or on the go with iTunes and Stitcher!

Things mentioned in this episode:

Revising Mrs. Robinson

Whoopee!¬†A Sex-Positive Variety Show¬†‚Äď Get tickets here! Promo code: SOTB4

She Bop’s upcoming classes

Credits

Host ‚Äď Amory Jane

Sound Engineering, Editing, and Theme Song¬†‚Äď Mat¬†Vuksinich

Guests ‚Äď Suzanna Mathews¬†and¬†Robin Wilson-Beattie

 

As always, a huge thanks to our sponsors –¬†She Bop¬†and¬†Uberlube!

BDSM, feminist, Feminist Porn, Fisting, Kink, Personal Blog, Podcast, Polyamory, Porn, Queer Porn, Queer Sex, self-discovery, Sex, Sex Education, Sex Educator, Sex on the Brain, Sex Positive Variety Show, Sex Toys, Sex Workshops, Sex-Positive Entertainment, sexuality, Spanking, Uncategorized, Whoopee

Sex on the Brain Episode 9: Live from the Femme Sex Party!

Episode 9: Live from the Femme Sex Party! Okay, I admit that live is a tad misleading. While Intern Courtney and I did throw a femme sex party and recorded it, we decided against broadcasting live. It was a very intimate night and we wanted to allow that to unfold naturally, without having to feel anxious about having a live audience. But don’t worry my precious listeners, we share plenty of real intimacy, sexy noises, and unedited audio straight from the party.

SPOILER ALERT: This episode ends with me having an orgasm. NSFW.

Features Epiphora, Stella Harris, Calico, and other sexy femmes!

Things mentioned in this episode:

Whoopee!¬†A Sex-Positive Variety Show¬†‚Äď Get tickets here!

Credits

Host — Amory Jane

Intern/Co-Host — Courtney Kist

Featuring — Epiphora, Stella Harris,¬†Calico, and more!

Sound Engineering, Editing, and Theme Song — Mat¬†Vuksinich

As always, a huge thanks to our sponsors- She Bop and Uberlube

Anxiety, Culture, Depression, feminist, Life Changes, Medical Marijuana, Mental Health, Podcast, Politics, Relationships, Self-Care, self-love, Sex, Sex & Depression, Sex Education, Sex on the Brain, Sex Positive Variety Show, Sex-Positive Entertainment, sexuality, Stigma, Uncategorized, Whoopee

Sex on the Brain Episode 8: Sex & Self-Care

Episode 8: Sex & Self-Care¬†is a collaboration with Ev’Yan Whitney, host of The Sexually Liberated Woman podcast. ¬†In this episode, Amory Jane and Ev’Yan¬†chat about how their¬†sex lives and intimate relationships have been impacted since the election and share their thoughts on self-care, sexual expression, body love, and resistance. They also take a live call from writer and “professional oversharer” Crista Anne. Trigger Warning:¬†Trump, mentions of sexual abuse, discussions about trauma, mental health, and survival.

Available below or on the go with iTunes and Stitcher!

Things mentioned in this episode/helpful links:

News Feed Eradicator for Facebook

NPR: In Trying Times, A Mental Health Professional Advocates for Self-Care

Bitch Media Article: Audre Lorde thought of Self-Care as an “Act of Political Warfare”

Everyday Feminism Article: 5 Self-Care Tips for Activists

Whoopee!¬†A Sex-Positive Variety Show¬†‚Äď Get tickets here!

Credits

Host — Amory Jane

Co-Host/Guest — Ev’Yan Whitney

Sound Engineering, Editing, and Theme Song — Mat¬†Vuksinich

Caller – Crista Anne

As always, a huge thanks to our sponsors- She Bop and Uberlube

Anxiety, Bipolar, Culture, Depression, Kink, Life Changes, Mental Health, Podcast, Relationships, self-love, Sex, Sex & Depression, Sex Education, Sex Educator, Sex on the Brain, Sex Positive Variety Show, Sex Toys, Sex Workshops, Sex-Positive Entertainment, sexuality, Shame, Stigma, Uncategorized, Whoopee

Sex on the Brain Episode 7: Sex & Depression

This week‚Äôs guest ‚Äď JoEllen Notte (The Redhead Bedhead) ‚Äď describes sex and depression as ‚Äúthe intersection of two taboo topics.‚ÄĚ Good thing Amory Jane and Intern Courtney have no problems discussing taboos! Instead, they open up and share firsthand accounts of living with mental illness and how kink and sex toys have helped them retain their sex lives during depressive episodes. On the second half of the show, JoEllen Notte dives into her research on depression and how mental illness and medication can impact our sex lives and our relationships. She also debunks depression myths, offers important advice for partners of people living with depression, and emphasizes how none of us are broken.

Available below or on the go with iTunes and Stitcher!

Things mentioned in this episode:

Whoopee!¬†‚Äď Get tickets here! ‚Äď Promo Code: SEXBRAIN

JoEllen’s¬†articles on Sex & Depression

Depression Quest

Ring Theory

Spoon Theory

Classes at She Bop

Credits

Host — Amory Jane

Intern/Guest — Courtney Kist

Sound Engineering, Editing, and Theme Song — Mat¬†Vuksinich

Guest – JoEllen Notte

 

As always, a huge thanks to our sponsors- She Bop and Uberlube